If Parents Dont know How To Treat Their Children they should be ashamed Of Them Selfs
It requires a lot of courage and determination for a parent to mould their children in this Rat race world .
Back In US, Parents wouldn't dare hit their children and incase they do the children have the right to call 911 who would come and put their parents behind bars. I see the way some parents really yell and beat their children. Yes, they need to be spanked, taught a lesson, punished and corrected on the spot so that they would think twice before they commit the same mistake again. Like wise even in school our teachers have the right to correct the students and advice them when they do some thing wrong. If we blame the teachers let students sit at home and learn them selfs as we have the Internet revolving 24/7 so take some help with www.google.com. It does not mean that they need to go beyond the limit and cross the lines that might hamper the childrens future.
Children who are spanked even occasionally are more likely to experience depression or low self-esteem compared to children who are not spanked. At the same time, Parents should not just spoon feed and pamper their children buying whatever they ask . Later on they would have the mentality that their parents would listen to any thing and finally they would reach a situation where the children would sit on top of the parents ruling them.
Due to their busy schedule parents these days do not have time to sit and have a one-to-one conversation with their children. Children are left a lone keeping them selves so engrossed with their latest gadgets while the parents are in some other direction. They would be in a fix when their children goes out of their way without knowing what to do. In this way the children might loose interest and might involve in various activities as they might feel that they are not getting the moral support from their parents. Children are spoiled in this world with millions of friends who they make at school/ college and they may take some bad traits from them.
Put another way, getting spanked does not help children identify inappropriate behavior, nor does it teach them what they can do differently in similar circumstances in the future. There are parents who need to be taught how to behave by their grand parents and then the children. When parents behave so arrogantly with others what example are you creating for your children? Your children would gradually pick up the same habit and behave the same manner to others. this is how we have children who misbehave in society. I am sure many children these days are young enough quite energetic who knows the pros and cons , whats right and wrong. But it is the responsibility of the parent to advice, and correct them when they do some thing wrong rather than banging their heads on the wall or taking frying pan and hitting them,. if parents cant its a SHAME on their part to be called as 'PARENTS'.
Assigning a time out is effective for younger children, while taking away privileges like television and toys tends to be effective for older children. Once children are old enough to understand and communicate with their parents, the key is to provide clear choices when they are behaving inappropriately, and then to make it clear that any discipline that arises is due to them making the wrong choice.
If parents choose to spank their children, I can only hope that they do so with broken hearts rather than out of anger. To discipline out of anger makes the discipline more about the parent's lack of emotional control rather than about teaching their children how to mature into well functioning adults.
Do love your children , spank them when your supposed to spank them. At the same time give them the freedom to do what they want. I am sure your children will start respecting you. If parents love their children do spank them because you love them and not because you want to vend your anger and frustration that most of us have.
Mr. Mathew Litty