'I just want to shop not be swamped by noisy kids'

“When we were children (80's) you did not run around in malls, churches or other people's homes. You ran in the garden, around the swimming pool and on the sports fields. Our parents did not use us to manipulate others to get in the queue faster or to stand closed to the stage. We did not attend shows of 3 hours long, we stayed home and we were children. There were very little malls when we were young because we were outside and acted like children. Now that we are grown, we can walk in the malls and want to enjoy is, without other's colliding with ill behaved children. It is a pity that 'children should be seen and not heard' is out of fashion. Child, be a child, you have the rest of your life to be an adult. Children manage their parents these days, not the other way around. Sad but true.”

“I am not able to have children due to a combination of biological inadequacies and a tendency towards being repellant to members of the opposite sex and I too, as a result, have vehement dislike of children. I like to use terms like 'child-free' and make jokes about kids and pets as if they were the same thing, but actually beneath my jocular exterior, I am a very sad person deserving of your pity. Cheers.”

“Dear Carrie,

You do not like being around children when you go shopping, that is your personal choice! you implement it! You cannot impose your choice and preferences on others. May be some families enjoy bringing their children to the malls?
Yes I do agree that a group of children can be a handful, but these children are not at fault, it is their parents who have to take the responsibility to make sure that they try and control their children in public areas!”

“Deville / Carrie

The way you both talk.. looks like you both were brought into this world as adults...

Well in that case... I guess you both have not enjoyed going to the mall with parents... but trust me... as a kid we cry for sumthing that we see in the mall or shop... but as we grow up, we actually realise the joy that our parents felt when they bought us anything that we wanted or put us in those mini rides placed in malls and saw that happiness and joy on our faces.

Oops... sry for making you jealous as you guys never went to malls/shopping as kids...

Just to let you know... I don't have any kids (as of now)... but when I do... I'll surely ask you both which mall will you be visiting and which day... so I can bring my little one along.. Just to show you what you missed in your born-adult days..

Ps. show love to kids and smile

tc”

“Annie, you've basically backed up my point. A lot of parents, the moment they become a parent, seem to get this idea in their head that all of a sudden, the world revolves solely around them and their child and everyone owes them a favour for purely existing. You haven't achieved anything, or done anything special or out of the ordinary, you've simply performed a task that nature intended you to perform. Any love involved is reserved purely for your own family and close friends, it is of no interest to anyone else and is extremely arrogant and self-centred to assume otherwise.”

“@Gatvet: 1st point : No one else cares about your children? 
you mean to say if a child is lost in the hypermarket, or in any public place....no one will care to help him/her find the parents? You think so? I don't think so. So pls don't say people don't care. People who have love in their heart for children coupled with humanity will definitely care at least not always but surely when children are lost in malls and public places and in desperate need of help. 
 2nd point:  No one else gets joy from your children? 
Oh cmon... Don't say that.  Relatives,  Friends get joy when they see their friends children smiling, playing and when they see that innocence , that naughtiness, the love they see in the children & their respect towards elders...then,  they see that JOY in them...  
3rd point: children r Just the produce of reproductive system ? That's how u think??? :-(( BuT, how is ur thinking??  Let me tell u... Children are the result of LOVE of their parents which is God's most precious and valuable gift to every parent on earth towards mankind. we should accept it that way... And not label it as JUST a produce. In that case, According 2 u the  population would drastically increase if ppl think it as just a produce... And not a result of Love... and then u knw what.....WHO will have to take control over the situation which will b totally out of control. :-(( Oh my God just think how they will handle it!!! :-((( 
4th point: how much strangers have to put up with children's behavior?  
Well,in one of my comment as i said children's bad behavior towards strangers or other Mall goer is not acceptable and parents should take notice others are not disturbed by their childrens bad behavior. Everyone(includes children & adults) has equal right to enjoy in the mall be it when they r shopping or dinning. Now, Till Sunday   ... let's enjoy shopping! Btw... Yay!!!! Today is weekend and I m now rushing  2 the mall to avoid all the pushing. Bye bye! Have a gr8 weekend and enjoy shopping. :-)”

“Attention mothers. No-one else cares about your children, no-one else gets joy from them, they are not special or precious, they're just the produce of a reproductive system that has been used by every species on the planet since the beginning of time. Once you accept this, then we can move onto how much strangers should have to put up with their misbehaviour.”

“Have an Idea for you lady:go to Mars,there you will be really happy,get a life or a specialist, don't get kids....ever please.Just you to know Kids cry,play,jump and cry again when they are sleepy,tired,hungry,get frustrated,they are amazing too and we spend a lot more than you to make them happy,believe me!!!.
Now,going to shop during the week with the maid???,WOW.Mars was created for you because your way of thinking is from another planet!!!!!!!
Dr.”

“Carrie ( child free woman who likes peace), you mean to say that all those who have put their opinion  and don't agree with C Deville's letter about having a Mall that has no children's day and that children should be accompanied by maids on week days.... According to you, they are all brainwashed by the society??? In that case all the shops that are selling children's items like toys, clothes, books & other children's stuff they should not do business on those days...No Children's Day? Wish that does work with the Malls over here.  How considerate and very good thinking.  So basically, children should go only with the maids to shop on week days and you very much agree with that. That means the children should never go out with their parents to the malls. So nice of you and the author to think that way. I  STRONGLY  agree that  children should not be a disturbance in malls and parents have to look that others are not disturbed by their child's behavior. Agree,  Everyone wants to have a good time  in the Mall without getting disturbed. Everyone has equal right to shop be it adults or children. All said and done, but one can't stop the children to go with their parents to the Mall. The writer prefers that it's worth children spending time with the maid in the shopping mall on all week days rather then spending time with parents in the malls on weekends just bcos some children are behaving badly. What about the others who are well behaved? They too should be stopped from entering the Malls? So, now who you think is selfish? Remember if there is one rotten apple in the basket doesn't mean that rest of the apples are bad.  If there is one un behaved child  doesn't mean that all children are bad and they all should be stopped going to the mall on weekends with their parents. C'mon get a life and pls understand children are also human beings just like you and me. As said Mall is for All .... Big or Small. ”

“My name is Carrie and I don't care for the children? Clever Annie.

I'm the only one who feels this way? Your child free friends (assuming you have any who aren't brainwashed by society) just don't have the guts to tell you they agree. A lot more people agree, but you're so closed-minded to the fact that your argument may be influenced by years of societal programming that it's not worth arguing with people like yourself who could never consider other people's feelings.

Just explore the fact that you are only the popular opinion due to society.”